Common Causes of Toddler Temper Tantrums

April 24, 2018

But knowing exactly what is behind your child’s mini meltdown can go a very long way in helping you diffuse the situation - while keeping your sanity!

There are many different reasons for toddler temper tantrums, but the main ones generally tend to be as follows.


A child’s language ability often develops at a slower pace than their psychological skills, and consequently they’re unable to articulate effectively exactly what it is they want or desire.

Try putting yourself on your toddler’s shoes for a moment. Think about how frustrating it must be not to be able to make yourself understood!

Lots of empathy and reassurance would be the best ways of handling frustration-type temper tantrums and educate your child that they can come to you whenever they want support or assistance.


I know from experience that it may be tempting to allow your child skip their daytime nap if you are busy and have places to visit and things to do.

But if your child is accustomed to having a little snooze through the day, depriving them usually results in one grouchy, miserable little camper!

Try to factor in a while for them to rest each day and you should find they are less liable to fly off the handle at the slightest little thing!


Watching your child develop from just a small baby who relies on you to do everything for them to an independent toddler is intriguing and highly rewarding. However, often it includes a completely different set of challenges!

Now you are dealing with an autonomous small individual who understands their own mind and has very firm opinions on what they do and do not want. Cue several temper tantrums that involve a battle of wills between them and you!

In such situations, I’ve found that it can help if you let your child feel they are in control.

For example, instead of struggling to get them to wear a coat, give them of selection of two and let them decide which they want to wear. Your toddler feels like they have been a part of this decision-making procedure and have gotten their particular way - although you know otherwise!


A final common source of toddler temper tantrums would be to find attention.

If you suspect your toddler is acting up simply to evoke a response from you, maintain your reactions to a minimal. Rather, shower them with praise and recognition for positive behaviour and they will soon come to learn that being naughty does not get them the results they desire.